Relationship Issues

Sleep Deprivation & Relationship Breakup/Anxiety

I had suffered from anxiety for many years which was heightened to a state of severe anxiety due to relationship split. I received three treatments in total.

Initially made me feel calmer and enabled me to think more rationally, thus enabling me to deal with practical issues associated with my relationship break up. Secondly I no longer take medication for my anxiety which I had been taking for the last four years, which was prescribed by my doctor. I also had trouble sleeping; sometimes I would be awake for most of the night, which gradually improved and came back during my treatments with Raj.

Lee Elkin,
Anerley, South London

Relocating Home / New Job/ Marital Breakup

I initially called Harj due to some advice from a close friend. They had tried the healing and recommended it highly. I was at a very low point in my life, and had just separated from my husband. It was both a confusing and a very painful time for me. In many ways I felt lost, even unsure about whether I actually wanted to separate. I was low in confidence after years of trying to fix a relationship which my partner was gradually destroying. I had become someone who was more secure in picking up my partner's mess, than dealing with my own needs. It was a very scary time, stepping away and coming back to myself to have a look at what I actually needed. As the separation was happening I was in constant anxiety, about the future, about my partner and mostly what I was going to do next. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to do, to put down my life and walk away.

When I called Harj, I actually did not have very many people left to turn to in my life. Every one was moving along in their day to day business, and one thing I learnt, even though everything had stopped for me, life was still going on for everyone else. It was a lonely time to say the least. There was no judgement from Harj about my situation, she just listened to what I was saying, and from what I remember I was not saying very much at the time. It is all a bit of a haze now.

There was some talking in our session, but not very much. Harj was okay to proceed with the healing, and said she did not need the in and outs of every detail in my relationship. So we only talked about what I felt comfortable with. I did have a few treatments with Harj. The moments that I was with her in the healing I knew I was not alone, and each session was like a step closer to moving on.

After the first couple of sessions I secured myself a job and this was one of my main concerns, as I was going to have to start over and support myself. This actually happened within days of the second treatment with Harj. As time continued I started to accept what had happened, and from each session I was getting more and more strength. I perceived my husband differently to, as before I met Harj I was blaming myself for many aspects of the marriage. I started to feel as if the separation was in fact a good thing, as the limes revealed how much I had changed in my time with him. The day I came for healing, I was vulnerable and extremely lacking in confidence, yet with each session I could feel more and more brightness coming in. I made new friends, got in touch with some old ones, and gained more and more confidence in my working environment.

I remember Harj saying to me, how different I looked, and after about five treatments I felt a real turning point. I was no longer relying on reconciliation, and if there was ever to be one, I now understood it was him that had to make the changes. This level of strength came quite quickly, as I was seeing Harj on a weekly basis.

Had it not been for the spiritual healing I don't know which way things would have gone. I was so vulnerable at the time; I may even have fallen back in to the relationship. It was definitely the easier thing to do at the time. Today I feel I hold my own, and I am able have healthy relationships without that sort of dependency in which I felt so unhappy. These treatments helped me put down very quickly a very difficult part of my life and gave me the strength to stand on my own and start again to create a new life. When I came to Harj I had nowhere else left to turn, now I have my own space, my own job and most of all, I am not living in a state of anxiety.

Anne Smith,
Office Manager,
London

Relationships

I felt completely disconnected from my husband. We had a serious lack of communication within our relationship and were not looking towards the same objectives within our marriage i.e. our son and developing a well-rounded life for him.

I felt that the main problem was the lack of engagement between my husband and our son. My husband saw himself as providing for the family and that that was the priority, to work hard and then help out with routine chores around the house. I wanted more for us as a family and couple, to enjoy spending time together away from our home, although lovely, but everyone needs time outside of the usual surroundings. And also to feel re-connected as a couple.

I had tried a treatment previously for my back and it helped me and after speaking with Raj I felt that I had nothing to lose by trying the treatment suggested. Raj was objective during our conversations and only ever made suggestions which helped guide me through my process. I have received three treatments in total. But I see this as a developing process and intend to have more treatments in the future.

I have become more excepting of my present life, which has enabled me to let go of the past and look forward to the future. I feel as though I have a new clarity to my life which was clouded before the treatment. My husband has spent more time with our son over the past few weeks and they are much closer to each other. The fact that our son now runs to his dad (even if I’m in the same room) makes me very happy. And I feel more positive about our future. This is the first time I have tried this type of therapy treatment for a situation not relating to my health. I was unaware that it was accessible. I have recommended this treatment to a family member and will continue to recommend it to whomever would benefit.

Anonymous,
West Midlands

Property Cleansing

Having received some spiritual therapy for personal issues, I had been telling Harj about how difficult things were still feeling for me with in my house although I was starting to really get my life back together in terms of my confidence, work, and relationships outside my home.

As soon as I was back home I felt like I took two steps back and my internal struggles would start again with continual disruption from uninvited family members, and others I felt were just making my life difficult! As Harj had been providing my with treatments, I was starting to get vivid dreams about how negative I was feeling with in the house, and once Harj interpreted them, she suggested a house clearance!

I remember how difficult things got just before the clearance, I started to see what the problems were, and who was bringing in the negativity into my home life, and it became more and more disrupted until I finally did the house cleansing. Harj said, it would block out the negative energy of anything of anyone who may be bringing it in to my home. The more we talked about it, the more I could see exactly what was happening. I felt like the negativity climaxed right before the treatment, and then a sudden silence. I felt like I would be able to hear a pin drop, finally wrapped up in peace!

I can't tell you how much things improved, no more unwanted family visitors! And that was just the start… ha ha. The horrible panic and low mood left me when I was at home, and despite having other treatments, it was not until the house clearance that I felt like I could actually sit in myself at home! I could finally move around my house freely, and no more tip toeing around!

Pat Steer,
Public Sector

PMS Pre-Menstrual Tension & Relationship Difficulties

I was unable to take control of any situation, from minor to serious problems, which lead to a lot of depression. What didn't help was an issue from a past boyfriend from whom I couldn't move away from. Raj was very caring and passionate about my wellbeing and I could see he wanted the best for me. I did visit a few times, but I needed to understand as I progressed. I gained confidence and improvement in my self-esteem and taking control of my life and situations. I started to believe in myself and striking for my goals and realising that problems only occur if you create them yourself, and if you dismiss this, it can be harder to move forward. It took me a bit of time, but I can truly believe this now.

I also did the healing treatment for my menstrual cycle pains, the pains seem to be less, and the side effects of my depression, is more balanced during my cycle.

I can honestly say that I wouldn't have been the person I am today, if I did not do this healing treatment. I am very grateful, that I went through this process of change.

Anonymous,
Self Employed,
Redbridge, Essex

Miscarriage/ Pregnancy

I called Reach Healing as recommended by sister, who saw him for treatment a couple of months ago, after Raj suggested to her that he might be able to help me. I was having a succession of miscarriages and it put a huge strain on my relationship, and affected me personally and me as a woman. The doctors could not find the reason why I was miscarrying, but after losing 4 babies, normally after week 15, I became desperate and very depressed.

I knew how expensive IVF was going to be, as another family member had gone down this road, and how un-natural the whole process could become, and I was worried that I'd only miscarry again, and couldn't bear the thought of us not having a family. The first session with Raj had an enormous impact on my emotions, I felt like I'd just woken up from some sort of struggle. I also felt a shift and release from the anxiety that stopped me doing the basic of tasks more easily.

Raj suggested that a part of my problem was to stop myself from sharing my pregnancy news with anyone, as there were not good intentions from someone close to me. As I felt more aware of my surroundings, I could see who this person was, so refrained from sharing anything with her or anyone else who I didn't get a good vibe from. After my third session, my depression eased considerably. I was told by Raj that the initial problem was resolved and that I should fall pregnant, but to be patient. I felt like I could be kinder to myself, something I forgot about for what seemed a long time.

I gave birth to a baby son just after Christmas, and it just feels as though everything has a more natural flow, and has falling into place, but I know it could have been quite different, if I was not open or trusting enough to give this a go. I would highly recommend Reach Healing's approach and the positive affects it has shown me in my time of real need.

Anonymous,
Personal Assistant,
East London